Slept with my man’s driver

Dear Pastor,

I am in a serious problem. I am 28 years old and I have been going with a man for two years.

He is one of the managers in a large company. He has a driver who takes him around. He also sends the driver to do errands for me, so the driver and I have become very good friends. He is always asking me how come I am with his boss, as I am such a young girl. One day he told me that he was going to ask me something. He asked me if I would give him the opportunity to take me out. I asked him how he would take me out and he is always at work and has to take my man home.

One day the boss had to leave the country to attend business meetings. I travelled with him to the airport and on our way home, the driver said to me, "Miss 'So and so', bossy is not going to be around for three days, so we have all the time that we need." I told him to get lost. He dropped me home and asked me if he could call me later; I told him that he could. About 10 p.m., he came to our apartment and I told him I was going to call my man and have him fired, but I was not serious. I invited him in and offered him a drink and that was it. He started to feel me up, and to cut a long story short, we had sex.

By the time my man got back to Jamaica, he was able to tell me that the young man was at our house, because the driver told one of his friends, who worked at the company, that he was there. Now my man is saying that I have embarrassed him. I don't know what to do. I cannot admit that we slept together, but guilt is killing me. I need your advice.

A.J.

Dear A.J.,

You need to get out of this man's house, and you need to get out now. You are a worthless, good-for-nothing girl.

Get out and let this young boy take care of you. You are not good. You have embarrassed your man. What do you expect this man to believe? I don't have anything else to say to you; you are not good. Leave the man's house now.

Pastor