I almost lost my mind after he left me

Dear Pastor,

Good day to you, sir. I read your column every day, and I see where you have helped a lot of people, so I am writing this letter to ask for your advice and prayer. I am not financially capable of paying for counselling services, but your help in anyway will be very much appreciated.

My life is a mess. I met a man and fell in love with him a few years ago. He was 12 years older than I was. Because of another woman, I broke off the relationship and moved on. We remained good friends. We reunited late last year, and he said he wanted us to get married and baptised when he returned to Jamaica. I said yes because I am a Christian and I was happy.

I started going to this man's house and started to treat him like I was his wife. I am a loving and caring woman.

Pastor, after a while he started to 'describe' me and say all sorts of things about m, so I became frustrated and miserable. He said that he did not want to get married, so I asked him what was the problem. He said that I didn't do anything. I don't give up easily, so I stayed and thought that he may still marry me. But no, the deceitful man had his plan. He told me that the only thing I had over him is that he told me he was going to marry me and he won't be the first or the last man to tell a woman that.

This entire time, pastor, he was going to his babymother's house, using his grandson as a reason to go there. He and his children's mother have two children together. If he wanted to go back to her, all he had to do was to tell me the truth. I realised that people are deceitful. Men are great liars and pretenders. I found out that this man never loved me. He was using me because he found out that I loved him very much, so he took advantage of the love I had for him.

We have to be careful in life, as it is 'not every kin teeth is a laugh.' He loves to smile, and so he fooled a lot of people. But God is a good God. I asked him to forgive me and to help me to forgive this man. He was wicked and deceitful. He had no conscience at all; a wolf in a sheep's clothing. It's hard at time when the memories come back to me, but he has taught me a valuable lesson. I have endured so much since the break-up.

He SAID HORRIBLE THINGS

The things he said about me were horrible. What had happened, I wouldn't wish it for no other woman. But pastor, it is hard because when you love someone and they deceive you like that, it leaves an impact on your life. I still cry sometimes. I lost hope. I lost faith in God, but I know God still loves me because I nearly lost my mind. It is the grace of God why I am alive today.

I really need some counselling and prayer, as there are other issues in my life that affect me from when I was a child. I need serious help, pastor. Please remember me in prayer.

Please continue to do the good work that you are doing and God will continue to bless you. Thank you for reading my letter. Thanks for your patience. Glory to God in the highest.

I.B.

Dear I.B.,

I appreciate your letter. This man is a waste of time and you should not continue to make yourself a fool by living with him. I get the impression that is what you are doing. You are to leave this man, and do so immediately.

Pastor