Cheap man wanted to go Dutch on first date

Dear Pastor,

I have a complaint to make to you. I was invited to lunch by a man who was always trying to get me to go out with him. He told me to meet him at the restaurant, so I did. He had already reserved a table, but he totally turned me off when he said that because it was our first date he expected us to go Dutch.

I told him I expected him to pay for the lunch. He said that he was not sure that he had enough money. I took up my handbag and told him it was nice getting to know him, but I would not go Dutch. When he realised that I was serious, and I was about to leave, he said he was only testing me.

I told him not to run that sort of a joke with me. We had lunch and when the waiter brought the bill, I took it and paid all of it. The bill was just over $6,000. When I took it and took out my credit card, the man did not even say, 'Oh no, let me take care of it.' He just smiled.

Later in the evening, I called him and told him that I was going to block him from my phone because I do not want him as a friend. I told him that he is not the type of man I would like to go out with again. He visited my office the following day and tried to talk to me, and I told him he is wasting my time and he should leave.

I would like to tell all young women to always have money with them when they are invited out, because some of these men only have mouths; they have nothing in their pockets. This man could not impress me. He wanted me to pay for my meal, and for him to pay for his. A good man would not have even raised that matter to me. He turned me off completely. Looking at him, one would believe that he is a somebody. However, he is nobody.

E.D.

Dear E.D.,

Evidently this man was broke and he did not have the courage to tell you that he was broke, so he talked about going Dutch. Why should a man invite a woman to go for lunch and he doesn't have any money in his pocket?

Any man who does that is classless. A woman shouldn't have anything to do with him. It is a pity you did not leave him at the table alone, but when you paid the bill you sent a big message to him. You effectively told him that you are not a beggar and you can do without him.

You are right to block his number from your phone. He is not a good man to have as your friend. Take good care of yourself.

Pastor