I could not handle this man’s big tool

Dear Pastor,

I am 22 and I am having a problem. I met a man while I was waiting to pay a bill at a business place.

He struck up a conversation with me. I asked him where he was from because he was talking with an accent. He said his parents are Jamaicans, but they migrated to England, so he was born and raised there. His parents are very old now and they wanted to spend their last days in Jamaica. So they returned and he was visiting them. I asked him if he was married and he said yes, but he was getting a divorce.

We exchanged numbers and later that day he called me and said he was so glad to have met me. He said I sounded as if I am an intelligent woman and he would like to get to know me better. We kept talking for a few weeks and he invited me out. On our very first date, he asked me to go to bed with him and I told him that was too soon. He asked me if I had a boyfriend and I told him no, because my boyfriend and I were not doing well. He is living in the US and sometimes for weeks I don't hear from him. He said he will treat me better than that.

In August we went out again and he said that he was longing to have sex, so he begged me again. I told him that I could not take him to my parents' home because I have respect for them and I didn't tell them that I was breaking up with my boyfriend. We decided that we would go to a hotel. He said he knew one and I asked if he took a girl there. He said no, but he was passing by and saw the sign. I did not believe him but I went.

This man has such a big and long penis. I cried when I was having sex. I ended up going to the doctor. When he was finished having sex with me, I was in pain. I told him not again. He said that his wife didn't have this type of problem, so maybe I had a problem ''down there' why I felt pain. The doctor told me that the man is too big for me and if I plan to have sex with him again, I should use jelly as a lubricant. Not even when I lost my virginity did I ever suffer such pains. I did not measure this man, but I am sure he is over nine inches long. He has been calling me often and suggesting that we meet again, but I have only been talking to him on the phone. I am not going to go to bed with him again.

My boyfriend is coming home very soon. He has been asking me if I have been faithful and I have been telling him yes, but I feel very guilty for going with this man. This man is a smooth talker, but he has a big big tool. All I have got from this relationship is $10,000 for the doctor bill, and he paid for the medication. I had no enjoyment having sex with him.

P.S.

Dear P.S.,

You accepted what this man told you about himself and you were convinced that he was a nice guy.

Perhaps if you were not feeling pains after having sex with him, you probably would have taken him on as your new boyfriend. But this man dealt with you mercilessly in bed and the pains were unbearable. I do not know what caused that, but I can tell you that years ago when I counselled a young lady, she told me that every time she had sex with her boyfriend, she felt severe pains. Her doctor advised her to stop the relationship and that was the end of it.

I am sure that you have heard that some men are very large and it takes 'special' women to deal with them. You have already expressed your regrets for going to bed with this man. Now you have to keep that as a secret and not do or say anything that would cause your boyfriend to know that you were not faithful to him.

Tell this man that you are not interested in him any more. Don't accept his calls or go anywhere with him.

Pastor