Husband molested my niece

Dear Pastor,

I want to say how much I appreciate your column and your radio show. Every night I look forward to hearing from you.

My husband calls you my boyfriend and sometimes when the radio is not on, he asks me if I am not listening to my boyfriend tonight. You saved my marriage because there was a time I was determined to leave this man, because he got involved with my niece who was spending a short time with us. He got her pregnant. She was just 18 and a virgin. I was attending a function and when I came home and called my niece, I observed that she was crying. I asked her what was happening and she said she was just thinking how life was rough with her. I told her she should dry her tears because she is here with us and we are here to help her. I did not know the girl was crying because my husband forced his way on her and took her virginity. She was afraid to tell me the truth.

When I told my husband that my niece was crying, he said she would get over whatever was bothering her. The next day I asked her if she was alright and she told me that she had something to tell me. She was combing my hair and she started to cry again. I said "Girl, what is your problem?" and she said my husband forced her to have sex with him and that was the first time she was having sex. I was very angry and I told him I was going to leave him. He got down on his knees and begged me for forgiveness. I could have killed that man. I beat him with the mop stick and it was my niece who told me not to beat him any more. He asked me to forgive him and said it was the first time he cheated on me, but he regretted it.

I thought of you and I remembered some of the things you said in your column, so I forgave him. For six months, I refused to have sex with him. I have seen this man bawl and beg me for sex and although I wanted it too, I did not give him. He started attending church with me and now he is a genuine Christian.

I thank you so much for helping us. My niece is now attending university and doing well. I asked her not to tell her mother what transpired, and she hasn't. I continue to help my niece; she is a wonderful girl. She told me that when she told my husband that she would tell me what happened, he told her that I would never believe her. But I did. She is a decent and clean girl. I will never trust my husband again with any girl, whether she is related to me or not. Thank you, Pastor, for the wonderful work you are doing. I will always remain a big fan of yours.

G.R.

Dear G.R.,

Your husband is very fortunate that you have forgiven him. What he did was a very wicked thing. You trusted him.

He should have been able to see your niece in the house and not sexually molest her, but your niece is not a fool and she did what was right. She told you that he molested her and you were wise enough to believe her. I can see him on his knees begging you and you beating him with a mop stick. He is fortunate that you did not break his collar bone.

I am glad that you are in a position to help this young woman in university; continue to do so. She will always be happy that you believed her when she told you what happened. Thank you for reading my column and thank you for listening to my show. Be good to yourself, always.

Pastor