Never slept at boyfriend’s house

Dear Pastor,

I am writing you this letter with a heavy heart. I have been with this young man for the past five years. He is two years younger than I. For the entire relationship, I have been lied to and cheated on, and I keep forgiving him. But he has never changed. Earlier this year, he did something very disrespectful. He has always stayed at my house, but I have never slept one night at his house.

Since March, he brought a woman to his house and I just found out that he is living a double life. I confronted him about it, and he said people are telling lies on him. I went and saw for myself what was happening and he is still lying. The girl broke up with him because she didn't know about me, because he never told her he had a woman.

I am wondering if this man will ever be truthful to me because we are still together. I just want your honest opinion. What do you think about this situation?

C.

Dear C.,

For five years you have not gone to this man's house. Although you were in an intimate relationship with him, you have not said why you did not go to his house.

Is it because he did not want you at his house at all? I am not saying that you are to sleep at his house. I am just wondering why you never visited him at his house.

If you know this guy to be such a liar and a cheater, why are you still having an intimate relationship with him? You are making yourself a fool. The young woman who was living at his house has moved on. So why are you still hanging around? It is time for you to bring an end to this nonsense and you need to do so now.

Pastor