Husband keeps doing sex commentary

Dear Pastor,

My husband talks a lot when we are making love and he is enjoying himself. I cannot get him to stop talking. He would describe every part of my body and comment on everything we are doing.

If he touches my breasts, he will talk about them. If my buttocks are soft, he will talk about it. Sometimes I have to say, 'Alright, enough now.' He says that he is enjoying himself, so I am the one to keep quiet. He will talk until we have come to the end of our lovemaking, and then he would tell me how he enjoyed himself.

What can I do to keep this man quiet?

We have friends who were staying with us and they must have known that we were having a good time because we had to increase the volume of our television, so that they would not hear us carrying on. When I told my husband to go easy and not to talk so loud, he said, 'This is my house, they are only visitors, and you shouldn't tell me what I should say or not say in my house.'

Does a man really have to carry on the way my husband does? This might not be interesting to some people, but I really want to hear your comments.

N.W.

Dear N.W.,

You are fortunate to have a man love every part of your body. Some men never tell their wives they love them. They never comment about anything, and women want to hear from their men. That is why, occasionally, women would put on a dress and say to their husbands, 'Do you like this? How do I look in this?' They really want to know, and when it comes to lovemaking, men want to know that their wives are pleased with them. Your husband might be excessive in his comments, but I do not believe that you should try and shut him up. When you have visitors, your husband should tone down and not embarrass you at all.

When he comments on your breasts, is he saying that he likes them, or his is suggesting that you should get bigger ones? I would rather believe that he is saying that they are lovely, so don't be upset about these things. Communication is important, even when a couple is in bed and making love.

But, hear me now, you should let your husband know whether you appreciate him and what improvement you would want to see him make. It is not right for a man to be there working out his soul and a woman to be silent at all times. Your husband needs to know whether or not you are enjoying him.

Pastor