Fell in love with a member of my staff

Dear Pastor,

I am writing this letter to you because I need some advice. I am 35 years old. I do not have children. I am the head of an organisation. I have both males and females in my company.

I pride myself on treating them well, but I have observed that the women love to gossip. The men do not consider what they tell me as gossiping. They say they are talking to me in confidence. I get along well with all of them. But recently, one of them has taken a special liking to me. He is two years older than I am and he is very trustworthy. I must confess that I like him and this love I have for him is growing every day.

On Valentine's Day, he bought me a card that he specially made for me, but he did not sign it. I knew that it was from him, so I took it and placed it in my handbag. He also asked me to go out with him for a drink and I told him that he knew the rules, that as his boss, it was not wise for us to be seen out together; but he can come to my house. That was the invitation that this man wanted.

I ordered dinner and I prepared a bottle of Champagne and he came over. The man is a good dancer. But I was shocked because of one of the songs we played. We hugged each other and I felt tension with him. I asked him what that was and he said what I was feeling is what he had been experiencing for the last couple of years, but he did not know how to tell me. I told him that it was wonderful having him. I kissed him on his lips and I told him we would talk again. I watched him as he got to his car and for the rest of the night I could not sleep. 'What did I get myself into?' I asked myself.

When he came to work the following day, he was smiling and he asked me how my day was, and I told him I had a bad evening. He told me that could change if I would only give him a chance in my life. Now this man and I are planning to be married next Valentine's Day. We got engaged and we invited some of our employees and they all said that they are happy for us. He wants to have a couple of children, but I am not interested in having children; I am willing to adopt.

My brother, who is a part of our company, wants us to appoint him as a board member. I am scared of doing so, but that would mean that we would have to make changes to include him as a part of the company. Some of the employees are saying that they knew a long time ago that this man was in love with me. I was not aware of it. But now I know that one must be open to the leading of the Lord.

V.J.

Dear V.J.,

Congratulations to you. I wish you the very best as you make plans for your wedding. This man is very fortunate to have you in his life. I trust that both of you would make sure that you go through a series of counselling sessions before you say "I do". Make sure that both of you respect each other and that you communicate well every day.

Pastor