My girlfriend prefers to sleep in her son’s bed

Dear Pastor,

I want to ask you your opinion on a matter. I am a 27-year-old man and my girlfriend is also 27. She has a six-year-old son and we are living together.

Every night the little boy wants to sleep in our bed. I told her I am against that. She said the boy doesn't understand. Sometimes I work at nights and when I come home, the boy is sleeping with her on her stomach. If I try to remove him, she tells me to leave him alone.

I am paying the rent. I love this girl. I know it is not right for her son to be sleeping with us on the same bed. Even when I want to make love to her, the child is in the way. Sometimes when I try to lift him up and take him to his bed, he cries. The hurtful part about it, Pastor, is that a couple of times when I take him to bed and he starts to cry, his mother leaves our bed and sleeps with him. I do not believe that this woman loves me. I told her that she should know better; she is not behaving like an intelligent woman.

How can I solve this problem? I do not want us to break up, but our relationship is heading in that direction. It is affecting our sex life.

G.

Dear G.,

Your bed should be for your lady and you. Occasionally, your child can spend some time with you on your bed, but it should not be a regular habit. It is not a family bed.

You should insist that your wife's son not sleep on the bed any more. And you should make it known to your lady that you are prepared to leave if she insists that her son should sleep with both of you.

You know, sir, I am suspicious of this woman. Perhaps she does not want the both of you to spend time together in bed, and she is allowing the child to sleep in the bed to prevent you from doing what you want to do with her. I could be wrong, but why would a woman take the boy to his bed and stay there with him? This thing doesn't look right. I hope you understand what I am trying to say.

Tell your woman that she is driving you away, and let her know that you mean every word you say.

Pastor