My man is a godsend

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you, but I have been reading your column for a long time. I am the mother of two sons; they are for two different men.

I was fortunate to get married, and my two boys accept my husband as their father. They have a very good relationship. In fact, they often behave as if they are brothers.

When I met this man I was in debt. I owed a lot on my mortgage and I was in danger of losing my house. My husband told me that he would help me. I did not take him seriously, because I knew that some men love to talk and promise things they cannot deliver.

One day he saw me crying and asked me what was wrong. I told him that I have been given a specified time to pay a certain amount on the mortgage. He told me to give him 30 days. I asked him what he was going to do, and he said I will see. He had some shares in a company and he sold them. I was not even aware that he had those shares. He sold the shares and took the money and paid my debt. When I realised what he did I cried all evening.

My husband subsequently told me that he was expecting me to put his name on the deed for the house. I told him that the house will not be in my name only any more. He said he was not pressuring me to do anything because I have two sons. I told him that they are his sons as well.

I would love a miracle to take place so that my husband and I could have a child together. However, that will never happen because of a physical problem that I have. I told my friends what my husband has done for me and they could not believe that such men are still around.

I would love to adopt a girl child, but my husband is not in favour of that. I think the boys would like to have a sister. However, my husband is satisfied with just having the two boys around. He has a daughter from another relationship.

Please express your opinion.

C.

Dear C.,

I am very happy for you. Now you are mortgage-free and you do not have to cry and be worried about paying mortgage any more. Your husband did the right thing by paying off your mortgage. He is not forcing you to put his name on the deed. He is really a good man.

I am also happy that your sons have accepted him as their dad. Don't spoil this now by insisting that you would love to adopt a girl child. Enjoy life with a wonderful man. Take care of him, love him, and feed him well. You should go on a vacation with him from time to time .

Pastor