Girlfriend always finding fault with me

Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old man and I hope you can tell me what to do to prove to my girlfriend that I love her. We started our relationship while we were in high school.

All my classmates knew that she was my girlfriend. We had our first sexual contact when she was 17 years old. I took her virginity on a moon-lit night. I went to see her, and right on the steps at the back of her house, we had sex. I had to hurry home before her father came home. As soon as I got home I called her and told her that I was home. I asked her if she was alright and she said yes.

I am working hard. I am now in university. This girl wants me to see her every week, but that is not possible. She has started to say that I do not love her. I do not have any other girlfriend. We don't have to hide our friendship from her parents any more because they have accepted me as their son-in-law. However, my girlfriend is always finding fault with me.

She started to attend church two years ago. I visit her church from time to time, even though I don't like it. They are too quiet in that church. My girlfriend says it is not because of her quiet church why I do not like it, it is because I see another girl in the church I attend.

I don't know what to do, because I love her. Maybe you can tell me what I should do.

When I told her that I would like to be a minister of the gospel, she told me that I should make sure that I enter the ministry that is aligned to her church. I told her that she should not expect me to do so. I really don't know what to do. I am concerned.

S

Dear S.,

I am not going to respond to what you said happened on the steps of your girlfriend's parents' home. However, if you intend to go into the ministry, you and this young lady are not suited for each other. For you to have a successful ministry, you would have to be compatible in every way, and at the moment, you all are not.

She has already warned you that you have to come her way. She does not trust you at all. You have tried to show her that you love her, but she is demanding too much from you. I suggest that you break up this relationship and go your separate ways.

Pastor