My babyfather disrespects me in every way

Dear Pastor,

I've been with this man for almost four years. We have our ups and downs, but I've been nothing but supportive to him.

I don't ask for much, all I want is for this guy to be honest with me and make time for me. We have a child together. I built my world around this guy. He used to live with me, but whenever we had problems, the first thing he did was to go home and start entertaining females, which I warned him about.

We had a fight and he left. It happened that we started talking to each other again, and he told me what happened in the past two months that we weren't together. But I overlooked it because I love him so much. We got back together and he came home to me one Friday night. He slept with me and left for work the following morning (Saturday). Then he brought a woman to my gate that Sunday morning to pick up our child.

This is the same man who tells me he doesn't want any man around his child, but he is willing to have a woman around the baby. I have looked past everything for years in our relationship, but I don't think, or know if, I can look past this one. I don't even want him to touch my child again because of the level of disrespect I get.

Please tell me what to do.

L.

Dear L.,

By this man's behaviour, you should know that he is just a user. He does not love you at all. He is a very wicked man and he is inconsiderate.

He knows that you love him, and he sees you as someone who is silly. He considers you silly because you have forgiven him many times, and if you continue to overlook his behaviour and always take him back after he has disrespected you, you will never get rid of him. So now that he has shown you one more time that he does not care about you, it is time for you to tell him to get lost.

How can a man be so disrespectful? After he slept with you on a Friday night and left for work on the Saturday, he returned for his child on the Sunday morning with another woman. He is heartless. You should not trust him any more, and the only money you should take from that man is to support his child. Do not have any arguments with any one of his women. You should be able to live without this man. He has used you as a floor mat. Don't allow him to continue to use you.

Pastor