Church brother says he’s in love with me

Dear Pastor,

I read your column every day and I want you to know that I listen to you every night. When you are not on your show, I do not listen to the radio, because my dial is stuck on Power 106FM.

I am in my 50s and you are my wonderful company. My husband and I had a good relationship, but he passed away. Now I am living with two of my children. I go out when I want to. I have seen men but I am not interested in any of them. No one can take the place of my loving husband. He left me in a lovely home. I don't have anything to worry about. My children have good jobs and I am not in debt.

I go to church almost every Sunday. One of the elders loves me, but I am not interested in him. The man is too poor. It is not that I can't like a poor man, but as my daughter says, I will have to support him and turn his nurse because he is over 70 years old. I don't even have to cook because I have a helper. If I marry this man, I have to take on a responsibility that I don't want. So when this man told me that he loved me, I told him that I loved him too, but as a church brother.

I have two lovely grandchildren. They are my son's children. My son and their mother broke up. She accused my son of infidelity. He denied that he had another woman with her, but I believe that he did. He is a handsome guy and he has always had problems in keeping his weenie in his pants. He loves women.

The next time this elder at church tells me that he loves me, I think I am going to tell him that I do not have any intention of marrying another man and he should not take what I say as an insult. Don't you think that this man should only be concerned about serving the Lord and leave women alone?

R.E.

Dear R.E.,

I am glad that you enjoy reading my column and listening to my radio talk show. I regret hearing of the passing of your wonderful husband. I am glad that he has left you in a very comfortable position. You are not a pauper and you do not have to beg bread, so to speak. You are a happy woman.

This elder in the church you attend loves you. Tell him the truth but don't insult him. Just let him know that you are not interested in him. His body is not dead, but you are not interested in him. I repeat, tell him the truth and leave it there.

Enjoy your grandchildren. You are fortunate to have good children. I wish you the very best in life.

Pastor