Sex-craved wife threatens to find younger man

Dear Pastor,

I am 50 years old and my wife is 45. I am having a problem. We still enjoy sex, but I do not feel for sex as often as my wife. Recently, she has been threatening that she is going to find a younger man to make her happy. Occasionally, she has been coming home late and I am starting to wonder if she has met another man.

I jokingly asked her whether she was carrying out her threats and she answered in the affirmative. I would rather kill myself than to know another man is having sex with my wife.

We have two children together and we have worked hard to buy our house and to educate the children. One is presently in college and the other is living in the United States of America. Nothing is wrong with me, it is just that as a farmer, I get very tired, and my wife does not have to work as hard as I do.

I get my regular medical checkups and I am in the peak of health. I wonder what type of tips you can give to me.

I will be grateful for your advice. Thank you very much.

L.

Dear L.,

At your age, you should know that some women get better as they get older. But at the same time, some men slow down and you are at the stage, evidently, where you have slowed down, but you are not dead. You are doing alright. You are still healthy and strong, but you are not as fast on the draw, so to peak.

You should not allow what your wife says to get you worried. Both of you should agree how many times you would make love in a specified period. Some men in your age group have sex twice per week; others twice per month. Your wife probably needs more than once or twice per week. You should let her have her way, and by that I mean you should change your position. If you are the type of man who likes to go on top of your wife (I am going to get myself in trouble by saying that), let her go on top and you wouldn't have to do much work. You should just cruise along, so to speak.

I know that you do not want to tell everybody your business, but you should have a male friend who is much older than you in whom you can confide. You can discuss with him the concerns that you have with your dear wife, and he might be able to give you some advice.

If your wife has gone through menopause, she might want you to make love with her more often. Some women, after menopause, are very sexual. Do not accuse your wife of having a man. She has threatened you, but perhaps she did so in jest. Don't worry yourself, I believe that everything is going to be alright.

Perhaps you may even want to discuss this matter with a medical doctor who is in his senior years. I wish you well.

Pastor