Mystery woman claims my husband fathered her child

February 13, 2023

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you and I am looking forward to an answer. I am 30 years old and my husband and I have been married for three years. We have one child together. My husband says that he doesn't have any other children, but recently a young lady showed up at our house claiming that she has a son by my husband. The child is two years old. When my husband came home and I told him about this woman, he asked me for her name and her number. I had asked the woman to give me her number, but she refused to do so, but she gave me her name. My husband said that he doesn't know that name.

I am wondering whether this is a scam. She did not ask me for any money, but she asked when he is generally at home because she would like to talk to him personally. Every day I am looking out to see whether this woman would come back. I keep my phone near to the door so that I could take a picture of her, but I have not seen her. My husband said that I should be careful and not to open the door for anyone who knocks. I hope this woman will return before I go back to work. I am on two weeks' leave. This woman says that she will take my husband to court for maintenance because he has not been supporting his son.

I told my mother about this woman and she said that I should not have anything to say to her, except I should tell her that she can wait outside until my husband comes home. I am not afraid of this woman, but I will not take my mother's advice because I do not know whether this woman has someone lurking around to hurt my husband when he comes home. I would love to get her number. I did not give her our number, but the fact that she found our address means that it shouldn't be difficult for her to get our number.

ANXIOUS

My husband goes out to play football with guys in the community on weekends, but since this so-called baby mother came to the house, my husband has not gone out to play football. He stays at home. If he is not helping me, he is watching sports on television. I am anxious to see this lady again.

I drive so I go to the supermarkets with my child, but since this woman has been to the house, my husband takes me to the supermarket, and he is always looking around before he leaves the house. I don't know what this woman is up to. But my husband has told me again and again that this woman is not speaking the truth; he did not impregnate any other woman but me.

Pastor, please for your advice.

G

Dear G.,

I would like to encourage you to have confidence in your husband. If this woman had an affair with your husband and he impregnated her, how come she has waited so long to find him? What is she up to, and why should you believe her? Does she have a plan to destroy your marriage? She gave you a name, but that does not mean that she gave you her true name.

You made a mistake by not taking her number from her. But if you had asked her for her number, she probably would not give you the correct number.

Your husband has assured you again and again that he doesn't know anything about this woman and he doesn't have another child. Accept what he said and time will tell if he is lying. Enjoy the good relationship that your husband and yourself are having and make sure if this woman comes back that you don't give her any information at all about your husband. Let her do all the talking and insist that she gives you her cell number.

Pastor

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